Is This Your Dating Style?
👁️Blind Spots in Plain Sight
Domestic violence created a cruel paradox in your threat detection system 🚨 - you became simultaneously hypervigilant and mysteriously blind to danger. Your nervous system learned to scan for specific types of threats, but this specialization created unexpected blind spots
in your radar. You might overreact to raised voices while missing manipulative behavior, or panic at minor conflicts-while staying calm around genuinely unsafe people 🚩. Your internal alarm system was calibrated by chaos, not security-making you expert at detecting familiar threats while missing entirely different red flags. This isn't a personal failing; it's how trauma rewires perception 🧠. You might tolerate subtle manipulation or emotional abuse because it doesn't match your template for danger, leaving you vulnerable to harm that arrives in unfamiliar wrapper.