## How It Started
Growing up, you learned that belonging wasn't guaranteed—you had to *constantly scan for signs that you were welcome or about to be excluded* 📡. Whether due to your identity, background, or simply being different, you developed an almost sixth sense for reading social dynamics, noticing the tiniest shifts in tone or expression that signaled rejection was coming. This `social hyperawareness` became your survival tool, helping you navigate spaces where you felt like an outsider looking in.
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## How It's Going
Your nervous system learned to be *always on alert for social threats*, reading micro-expressions and group dynamics with remarkable precision 🎯. You can walk into any room and immediately sense whether you're truly welcome, excluded or just being tolerated. This acute social radar developed from years of being ignored, talked over, or made to feel like you didn't belong—teaching you to prepare for rejection before it happened. In familiar groups where your acceptance is secure, you may feel unexpectedly bored—your finely-tuned social radar, having nothing to scan for, essentially powers down, leaving you feeling understimulated.
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## How This Shows Up In Relationships
In relationships, this translates to *constantly monitoring your partner's reactions for signs of judgment or withdrawal* 🔍. You might find yourself `code-switching` or adjusting your personality based on subtle social cues, never fully relaxing into authentic expression. The anticipation of not being accepted for who you are creates a persistent undercurrent of anxiety, even with people who genuinely care about you. During sex, you may find yourself checking your partner's face and body for signs of satisfaction, judgment, or disinterest. The irony is, you've become so skilled at detecting rejection that sometimes you see it even when it's not there. You know what to do to fit in, but you've never arrived to the point of relaxing about your belonging—constant scanning for you feels safer and more stimulating than simply trusting in someone else's unconditional acceptance.

When scanning for danger feels safer than simply being

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Discrimination based on sexual orientation

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Family history of stigma due to race, caste, class, or disability

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