👑26-Question Being A "Golden Child" Quiz: What's Your Trauma Dating Style?

You grew up as the "other" child—measuring yourself against a sibling who seemed to effortlessly receive the love and attention you craved.

You were the family's emotional thermostat—reading every mood, managing every crisis, and ensuring everyone else felt good about themselves.

As a child, your worth became inseparable from your performance—love, attention, and family stability all depended on you being an angel or the perfect child.

Growing up, you learned to perform excellence perfectly—becoming the family's shining achievement while your authentic self disappeared behind the spotlight.

You were often unfairly treated by your parents or siblings—like all problems were your fault.

When you were little, you either stayed quiet during conflicts or exploded dramatically.

You witnessed how hurtful people could be and vowed never to be like them.

Growing up, your parent constantly questioned and redefined your reality, making you doubt your own account of events, memories, and feelings.

Throughout childhood, love came with invisible strings—affection was given only when you played your role perfectly: therapist, cheerleader, or emotional caretaker.

In your family, different rules and expectations applied to you versus your siblings, creating a confusing double standard that felt impossible to question.

You either competed fiercely for scraps of attention or gave up completely.

Growing up, you learned to watch your siblings to understand what earned parental approval, trying to copy or differentiate yourself accordingly.

At home, your feelings didn't matter, only your ability to soothe others.

Compliments felt dangerous—your parents' praise came with guilt and manipulation.

Resistance only made things worse, so you learned to silence yourself instead.

Grown-up problems landed in your lap, forcing you to care for those who should have cared for you.

You became the helper in friendships, just like you were at home.

You hated your family's patterns, but feared you'd become just like them anyway.

Growing up, you automatically put aside your own needs whenever someone else seemed upset or uncomfortable.

You learned early that keeping everyone else happy was more important than what you wanted.

You believed your parents loved the other siblings more than you.

Your worth was always measured against others, never your own.

When asked what you wanted, you searched for the "right" answer—you knew there were "right" and "wrong" answers, even to your own wants.

You had to compete with your siblings for limited attention/resources.

You had to work through one parent to get to the other, or play adults or other siblings against each other to get what you needed.

Your siblings seemed to get what they needed more easily, so you had to find different strategies to get noticed.