🏠13-Question Being Adopted Quiz: What's Your Trauma Dating Style?

Growing up, you always felt different from your adoptive family—like you didn't quite belong.

You were told you were "chosen" and "special," but deep down you wondered why your birth parents didn't choose to keep you.

As a child, questions about your origins, medical history, or birth family were met with uncertainty or discomfort, leaving gaps in your sense of who you are.

As a child, you never knew what mood your parent would be in—loving one moment, distant or angry the next.

You were often unfairly treated by your parents or siblings—like all problems were your fault.

Growing up, your parents' love depended on their mood—forcing you to constantly earn even basic attention that should have been freely given.

People left without warning, teaching you that everyone eventually would.

You struggled with questions about who you were that others never faced.

With some people you got too close—with others you kept your distance.

You achieved endlessly, trying to prove you were worth keeping.

You silenced inner questions, telling yourself to be grateful.

You felt there was something wrong with you—otherwise why would your parents give you away.

You waited for people to leave and prove you right.