⚔️12-Question Bullying At Home Quiz: What's Your Trauma Dating Style?

Growing up, your childhood home never felt safe. You developed hypervigilance to subtle shifts in tone, expression, or body language.

Family events meant playing a role—you were never allowed to be just yourself.

You were often unfairly treated by your parents or siblings—like all problems were your fault.

Early on, you internalized the cruel messages, believing you deserved the bullying or that it revealed something fundamentally wrong with you.

Hugs and hurt came from the same hands, teaching you that love wasn't safe.

As a child, you either tolerated unacceptable behavior or preemptively attacked—the middle ground of healthy assertiveness felt impossible.

As a child, you saw that fighting back was necessary to avoid being hurt.

You heard criticism in every tone of voice, even neutral ones.

You downplayed your accomplishments to avoid drawing attention.

You waited for permission to be yourself that never came.

You got used to constant ups and downs—home often felt like a tinderbox waiting to explode.

Sometimes you'd just shut down and space out—unable to fight or flee, like a deer in the headlights.