Family with rigid roles and no tolerance for autonomy

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        🏥 What it means to have grown up without adequate medical care
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        <strong>Did you grow up with your basic health needs like medical attention, proper treatment, and preventive care often unmet? Has no one made sure you had the healthcare when you needed it?</strong>
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        Does this sound familiar?
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        💎 You hoard resources like food, money, or supplies—always afraid there won't be enough when you need it.<br><br>
        💎 When basic care is offered, your body tenses—waiting for the catch because kindness feels like a language you never fully learned.<br><br>
        💎 You minimize your needs or feel guilty asking for help, as if they're a burden just like they seemed to your caregivers.<br><br>
        💎 Relationships feel transactional as you keep score of who owes whom, because unconditional care was a myth in your childhood economy.<br><br>
        💎 You're still surprised when people show up for you—part of you never expects it.
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        You may have learned to fend for yourself early, becoming a tiny adult who diagnosed illnesses via library books and learned which neighbors might help when your family couldn't. Survival became your curriculum while other kids learned math, leaving you resourceful but unsure if your needs should matter.
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        You may find that even now, when basic care is offered, your body tenses—waiting for the catch because kindness feels like a language you never fully learned. Relationships feel transactional as you keep score of who owes whom, and you minimize your needs or feel guilty asking for help, as if they're a burden just like they seemed to your caregivers.
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        💔 The Core Wound
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        "You learned that your physical needs don't matter, that you must shrink your existence to fit what feels available, and that care is rare and untrustworthy—leaving you feeling undeserving of basic healthcare and suspicious when people offer help."
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Tools & Learning

🏥3 Ways Lack Of Medical Care Trauma Affects Your Relationships

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