🫂18-Question Needy Parent Quiz: What's Your Trauma Dating Style?

Looking back, your childhood ended early. While your friends played, you were managing your parents' problems—parents who needed parenting more than you did.

There was no real physical intimacy between parents in your house—people just played their part.

You became alarmingly good at caregiving—a skill born from necessity that now makes others marvel, "How are you so responsible?"

As a child, you learned to be self-sufficient early, handling responsibilities that other children your age never had to think about—making your own meals, getting yourself to school, solving problems alone.

Growing up, you automatically put aside your own needs whenever someone else seemed upset or uncomfortable.

You learned early that keeping everyone else happy was more important than what you wanted.

At home, your feelings didn't matter, only your ability to soothe others.

In your family, chaos felt more normal than unknown peace.

Love came with strings attached from the people who were supposed to care for you unconditionally.

Being "useful" felt like the only way to deserve care.

You learned your value came from what you could do for others, not who you were.

In your family, love came with strings attached, something to be earned.

From early on, 'I'll do it myself' became your survival mantra.

In your family, receiving care felt dangerous.

Your value came from what you could do for others, not who you were.

From early on, you learned not to ask for help because no one would come.

Growing up, you became an expert at anticipating needs before anyone spoke them.

As a child, you found it easier to take care of others than to let others take care of you—asking for help felt scary.