⚖️19-Question Parent In Jail, Serving Prison Sentence Quiz: What's Your Trauma Dating Style?

Growing up, you distrusted police and authorities, seeing them as threats to be managed and outsmarted, rather than sources of protection.

As a child, you never knew what mood your parent would be in—loving one moment, distant or angry the next.

As a kid, you couldn't tell anyone about problems at home because you knew it could mean losing your whole family or being taken away yourself.

You carried a secret weight of shame about your parent's getting in trouble with the law or being in jail while trying to appear normal to the outside world.

Growing up, your parents' love depended on their mood—forcing you to constantly earn even basic attention that should have been freely given.

Growing up, calling for help meant risking your entire family being destroyed—there was no safe choice.

Early on, you learned that calling the cops meant your family might get destroyed, not helped.

Back then, police were the people who handcuffed your parent and took them away from you—not the protectors other kids took them for.

You feel your body tense up around any police officer, even when you've done nothing wrong.

Certain topics in your family were landmines, so you learned to avoid them completely.

Attachment meant disappointment, so you learned to keep distance.

Stable relationships felt like fantasies, not something for people like you.

Growing up, family members disappeared and reappeared without warning.

You watched friends closely for signs they might turn on you.

Growing up, you learned not to plan ahead—people could vanish overnight.

You kept friendships shallow to avoid strong attachments.

You craved attention but it felt uncomfortable when you actually got it.

Growing up, dating and love meant extremes—obsessing over some people, rejecting others.

In relationships, you simultaneously reach for and push away the same person.