🎭28-Question Parent With Undiagnosed Or Untreated Personality Disorder Quiz: What's Your Trauma Dating Style?

At home, your parent's mental health problems became the center of family life. Their mood swings and struggles would dictate how you felt.

Growing up, your parent's brain worked differently, which meant you had to adapt to their unique way of seeing and responding to the world.

As a child, you never knew what mood your parent would be in—loving one moment, distant or angry the next.

As a child, you never knew which version of your parent you'd get—their moods, rules, and availability changed without warning or explanation.

You were often unfairly treated by your parents or siblings—like all problems were your fault.

You witnessed how hurtful people could be and vowed never to be like them.

Growing up, love felt like a lottery—some days you were cherished, others ignored or punished seemingly for the same behavior.

You became a "mood detective," always scanning for trouble—suppressing your own emotions to stay in control.

Growing up, your parents' love depended on their mood—forcing you to constantly earn even basic attention that should have been freely given.

In your family, love required chasing—parents withheld affection until you proved yourself, or only showed care during a crisis.

In your household, love came with screaming matches, tearful apologies, slammed doors, and passionate makeups.

You became skilled at translating between their world and everyone else's, though this meant your own needs were often missed.

Friendships got either too close or stayed too distant.

You hated your family's patterns, but feared you'd become just like them anyway.

Growing up, you developed a keen radar for tracking your parent's unstable state.

As a child, you stayed loyal to people who hurt you—because they were your family.

Your parent was often confused by your needs.

Grown-ups' moods were your responsibility to manage.

In your household, you automatically took responsibility for adults' bad moods.

You got used to constant ups and downs—home often felt like a tinderbox waiting to explode.

You believed you had to be the strong one because the adults couldn't handle it.

Love came with strings attached from the people who were supposed to care for you unconditionally.

Growing up, dating and love meant extremes—obsessing over some people, rejecting others.

In your family, chaos felt more normal than unknown peace.

You kept hoping your family would change, but they never did.

Your needs were only addressed when they became a problem for the adults.

You had to compete with your siblings for limited attention/resources.

Sometimes you'd just shut down and space out—unable to fight or flee, like a deer in the headlights.