☢️35-Question Toxic Family Quiz: What's Your Trauma Dating Style?

As a child, you were taught that your feelings were wrong. If you were upset, you were "too sensitive." If you were angry, you were "throwing a tantrum". Now, you struggle to know your emotions.

As a child, you never knew what mood your parent would be in—loving one moment, distant or angry the next.

With one parent gone, the remaining parent made you their emotional spouse—too close, too much, too soon.

One parent would be your best friend one day and your enemy the next—leaving you constantly walking on eggshells.

Your parents were so over-involved in every detail of your life that you never learned who you actually were underneath their control.

Both your parents were in conflict with you—it felt like the whole family was against you and you could never do anything right.

Your parents flip-flopped between smothering you and picking fights with you—you never knew which version you'd get.

In your family, you and your siblings were constantly fighting while your parents only made it worse—home felt like a battlefield.

Both your parents were distant from each other—you lived in a house full of unspoken resentment.

Both your parents were so wrapped up in themselves that you became invisible—your needs didn't matter to anyone.

At home, your sibling got all the attention because of their problems while you were completely ignored—you learned to disappear.

Your parent turned you into their therapist, best friend, or emotional support—dumping their problems on you when you were just a kid.

Growing up, you were assigned a role before you knew yourself—scapegoat, golden child, lost child, or caretaker—and forced to give up being a normal kid to fit into your family's chaos.

As a child, you never knew which version of your parent you'd get—their moods, rules, and availability changed without warning or explanation.

You were often unfairly treated by your parents or siblings—like all problems were your fault.

Growing up, love felt like a lottery—some days you were cherished, others ignored or punished seemingly for the same behavior.

In your household, love came with screaming matches, tearful apologies, slammed doors, and passionate makeups.

Growing up, your parents' love depended on their mood—forcing you to constantly earn even basic attention that should have been freely given.

Throughout your childhood, nothing you did was ever good enough. Your accomplishments were minimized or compared to others, while your mistakes were magnified and used against you.

In your family, you were the therapist, peacekeeper, or problem-solver—forced to act like an adult when you were just a kid.

Growing up, you learned to expect people to leave, hurt you, or disappoint you—because that's what it was always like in your household.

Trust didn't come easily—your closest people repeatedly let you down.

Growing up, you automatically put aside your own needs whenever someone else seemed upset or uncomfortable.

You learned early that keeping everyone else happy was more important than what you wanted.

As a child, you stayed loyal to people who hurt you—because they were your family.

Love came with strings attached from the people who were supposed to care for you unconditionally.

In your family, chaos felt more normal than unknown peace.

Friendships got either too close or stayed too distant.

Saying no to adults made you feel like a bad kid.

Kindness always came with a hidden price.

As a child, you saw that fighting back was necessary to avoid being hurt.

At home, your feelings didn't matter, only your ability to soothe others.

You got used to constant ups and downs—home often felt like a tinderbox waiting to explode.

You had to work through one parent to get to the other, or play adults or other siblings against each other to get what you needed.

Your parents would often say 'no' out of habit or discipline - the real answer came much later because you made it a point to stand up for yourself.