Community Guidelines

Share how you show up in relationships, your patterns, and your experiences. Keep the focus on your own behavior and feelings.

Instead of generalizing, share specific situations where you noticed your love style showing up. This helps others relate and understand.

Share how situations made you feel and what emotions come up for you in relationships. Your feelings matter and help others connect.

Share insights you've gained about your love style, what you're working on, or positive changes you've noticed in yourself.

Feel free to ask questions like "Does anyone else struggle with..." or "How do you handle..." when talking about your own patterns.

It's okay to share what's difficult for you in relationships, as long as you're focusing on your own experience and growth.

Frame your posts from your perspective: "I notice that I..." or "I tend to..." rather than making general statements about others.

While your childhood experiences may have shaped your love style, avoid sharing detailed trauma narratives. Instead, focus on how these experiences show up in your current relationship patterns. For trauma processing, please work with a qualified therapist.

Avoid posting primarily about your partner's, family's, or friends' actions. Focus on your own patterns and responses instead.

Don't offer advice about what others should do in their relationships. Share your own experience instead.

Don't suggest that someone's partner or family member has a particular disorder or issue. Focus on your own patterns.

Avoid sharing explicit intimate details or disturbing content that may be harmful or uncomfortable for others.

This isn't a place to complain about your partner or family. Focus on understanding your own patterns instead.

Don't share identifying information about yourself or others, including contact details or social media handles.

While sharing your patterns is welcome, avoid overwhelming posts with detailed trauma. Focus on current relationship patterns.

Respect all members. Avoid discriminatory language or attacks on any group of people.

This platform isn't for crisis support. If you're experiencing thoughts of self-harm, please reach out to a mental health professional.

Approach your love style with curiosity rather than judgment. Ask yourself "Why do I do this?" instead of "Why am I like this?"

Sometimes the goal is simply to notice and understand your patterns, not immediately change them.

Talk about what you're discovering about yourself, even if you're still figuring it out.

Share moments when you caught yourself in a pattern or made a different choice. These victories matter.

Understanding your love style is a process. Be kind to yourself as you learn and grow.

If sharing brings up difficult emotions, that's normal. Take care of yourself and reach out for support when needed.

Start your comments with understanding and validation. Acknowledge the courage it takes to share personal patterns.

The best comments share how you relate: "I experience something similar..." or "I've noticed that pattern in myself too..."

Ask questions that help the person reflect: "Have you noticed..." or "How does it feel when..." rather than giving solutions.

Let them know their feelings and patterns are valid. Comments like "That makes so much sense" or "You're not alone in this" are powerful.

While sharing your experience is great, make sure your comment still centers on supporting the original poster.

Authentic responses resonate more than generic supportive phrases. Share what genuinely comes up for you.

Our communities are designed to help you understand your love style and connect with others who share similar relationship patterns.

There's no pressure to share everything at once. Take your time and share what feels comfortable for you.

You don't have to post or comment. Many people find value in just reading others' experiences and feeling less alone.

If discussions bring up difficult emotions, it's okay to step away and come back when you're ready.

Use this space to better understand yourself, not to fix others or receive relationship advice.

Respect others' privacy and your own. What's shared here should stay here.

This community complements but doesn't replace professional therapy. Consider working with a therapist for deeper relationship work.