Traumadater

🚙 Driving without a GPS: When making your own choices feels unsafe

Signs you might relate to this dating style:

  • You overanalyze every text message and tone change

  • Silence feels scary, like something bad is coming

  • You practice conversations in your head before they happen

  • Simple questions like "What do you want to eat?" feel stressful

How it started:

  • Love felt unstable when you were growing up

  • People's moods changed without warning

  • You had to watch for small signs to stay safe

  • Speaking your mind often made things worse

You attract:

  • The Hot-and-Cold One: They switch between nice and mean randomly

  • The Blame Shifter: They make everything your fault

  • The Mind Reader: They expect you to know what they want without saying

  • The Drama Magnet: They always have bigger problems than yours

These people keep your warning system busy so you don't focus on their issues

Who you're drawn to:

  • The Mystery: They're hard to read and you want to figure them out

  • The Fixer-Upper: They have obvious problems you want to solve

  • The Strong Silent Type: They don't share feelings, making you try harder

  • The Charmer: They say perfect things but their actions don't match

You think these intense feelings mean love, but it's just your old alarms going off

Core pattern:

  • You choose strong-minded people who can't entertain multiple perspectives, then blame them when they predictably can't meet your need for equality

What healthy attraction looks like:

  • Partners who say what they mean clearly

  • Relationships where you feel calm more than anxious

  • People who take responsibility for their own feelings

  • Love that feels simple and safe