Being pulled into the middle of your parents' fights turned you into a master chameleon 🦎, learning to read each parent's emotional climate and become exactly who they needed you to be. You developed incredible **social intelligence and adaptability**, becoming skilled at making different people feel comfortable and understood. This gift for connection 🤝 and your ability to see multiple perspectives 👁️ makes you genuinely valuable in relationships and work. <br><br>But living between two worlds taught you to `split yourself`, creating different versions of who you are depending on your audience. Now you sometimes struggle to know which version is the "real" you, feeling like you're constantly *performing rather than just being*. You've become so good at `mirroring others` that your own authentic self can feel lost in the shuffle.

The Chameleon

Family member born out of wedlock or from incestuous relationship

Household culture of secrecy, "Don’t talk about it"

Parent with secrets about their sexual identity

Parental cut-off from their own background or cultural roots

Personal stigma due to confusing birth circumstances (non-marital, unclear or secretive parentage etc).

Secrecy around family identity, adoption, paternity, etc.

Sexual orientation or gender identity issues

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🦎 The Chameleon

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