Growing up with a parent whose brain worked differently to most meant learning to navigate a world with different rules, rhythms, and ways of connecting 🧠. You became incredibly skilled at translating between their unique perspective and everyone else's expectations, developing exceptional adaptability and emotional intelligence. But this blurred the line between the real world and your parent's distorted reality, creating `reality diffusion and insecurity`. Your ability to read subtle cues, be genuinely curious about others and adjust to different communication styles is nothing short of remarkable—you can sense when someone processes information differently and meet them where they are 🎯. Others see this and complement you on your *innate gift of empathy.* What they do not know is that this is a survival skill honed under tremendous pressure—become an emotions translator to your parent or risk chaos and disconnection. You learned to be *incredibly sensitive and attuned to changes in your parent's moods* because missing those "1-millimeter shifts" meant explosive anger or loss of connection ⛓️‍💥. But this `constant translation work` came at a cost: *your own needs and authentic identity got lost in the shuffle*. <br><br>Now you mostly don't bother about sharing your feelings, having learned that they are "too much" for others to deal with. You are skilled at `crisis bonding` with partners on a neurodivergent spectrum, feeling most connected during urgent moments when your partner's brain is finally focused on you. But you confuse defusing chaos for bonding and mistake last-minute plans or frantic energy for real connection. You over-explain yourself, fearing you'll lose people's attention just like you lost your parent's mid-conversation. Deep down, you carry a belief that love means being always attuned to your partner's moods and needs—that putting focus on yourself will be fatal to your relationships ⛔️.

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