Growing up with violence taught you that the world operates on a simple equation: *be strong and dominate or be weak and be dominated* ⚔️. Your survival depended on quickly categorizing people as either threats to avoid or allies to protect you－there was no middle ground in a war zone. This `black-and-white thinking` became your emotional compass 🧭, helping you navigate genuine dangers by making split-second assessments about who could hurt you. Your ability to spot potential predators and read power dynamics is genuinely sharp and has likely protected you from real harm so far. <br><br>But this binary lens now paints every relationship and situation in stark contrasts－people are either completely safe or completely dangerous, totally harmless or utterly evil 🖤. You struggle with the *gray areas* where most healthy relationships actually exist, finding it hard to be with a partner who shows both *strength and vulnerability* at different times. This turns you into awkward sparring partners 🥊 where you're never sure whether you're the stronger or the weaker one. The anxiety is real because your early experiences taught you that being the weaker one always leads to you getting hurt.

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