When alcohol, drugs or family conflict turned your parent into someone unpredictable, you became the family's emotional thermostat 🌡️—constantly adjusting yourself to keep everyone else comfortable. You learned to sense tension before it erupted and became incredibly skilled at *smoothing over conflicts* and managing everyone's feelings 🕊️.<br><br>Your ability to create peace and make others feel heard is a genuine superpower that people deeply appreciate ❤️.  Yet this comes with a heavy cost 💰—you now feel responsible for everyone else's emotional temperature, automatically stepping in to fix problems that aren't yours to solve. You carry `guilt and anxiety` whenever others are upset, as if their feelings are somehow a reflection of your failure to keep the peace.

The Peacemaker

Other family members living together with you

Parent estranged, cut-off from their parents, family, siblings

Parent with conflicts with both sides of the family

Parent with conflicts with their side of the family

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🕊️ The Peacemaker

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