Years of living with `childhood trauma` rewired your nervous system to stay permanently switched on🎚️—a biological survival system that kept you alive when your world felt dangerous. You became incredibly attuned to reading people's energy, micro-expressions, and the subtle shifts that signal when someone might become unsafe. This `hypervigilant awareness` made you almost psychic 🔮 at detecting relationship red flags and protecting yourself from harm.<br><br>But this same survival wiring now makes intimate relationships feel *exhausting and overwhelming*. Your nervous system treats your partner's bad mood, delayed text response, or even their quiet moments as potential threats 📱⚠️. You swing between emotional extremes—either feeling completely `numb and dissociated` (when your system shuts down to protect you) or *drowning in intense feelings* (when the floodgates burst open) 🌊. Even when your partner is being loving and consistent, your body feels jumpy—it still carries those early trauma memories, *bracing for the next emotional storm* 🌪️ even in moments of genuine safety. You're so busy scanning for danger that you struggle to actually receive the love and affection that's right in front of you.

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