Chameleon tendencies, performing to fit others' expectations

Role-Playing & Lost Identity

Distancing, fear of dependency, 'one foot out the door'

Avoidance & Emotional Withdrawal

Constant alertness, anticipating rejection/abandonment, overanalyzing partner's behavior

Hypervigilance & Scanning for Danger

Provoking rejection to confirm fears, loyalty tests

Testing & Trust Challenges

People-pleasing, over-giving, confusing care with worth

Self-Sacrifice & Earning Love

Inherited fears, marginalization, scarcity mindset

Intergenerational & Systemic Trauma

Cycles of idealization/devaluation, drama bonding, addiction to intensity

Chaotic Attachment & Push-Pull Dynamics

Fight/flight/freeze/fawn in arguments, testing loyalty

Conflict & Protest Behaviors

Checking out during stress, numbness, out-of-body experiences

Dissociation & Shutdown Responses

Blurred self-other boundaries, emotional fusion, loss of autonomy

Enmeshment & Boundary Diffusion

Hoarding resources, fear of lack, guilt about receiving

Scarcity & Deprivation Mindset

Dissociation, transactional views of sex, performance anxiety

Sexual Trauma Adaptations

Carrying the Weight of Being the One Who Lived

Living with Premature Knowledge

Rehearsing Goodbye

Terrified of Abandonment

When leaving feels safer than arguing

Always Ready to Leave

When finding belonging means sacrificing stability

Drawn to the Margins

Expecting Everyone to Leave

When nowhere feels like home

Guest in Your Own Home

The Chameleon

When scanning for danger feels safer than simply being

The Social Radar

Body Guarded

The Long Road to Recovery

Body That Doesn't Belong To You

Body That Learned to Leave

Body That Remembers Hunger

When Body Has a Mind of its Own

Body That Remembers What You Forgot

Sex as a Movie

Sex as a Transaction

Sex as Violence

All or Nothing Walls

When healthy boundaries feel impossible

Lost in Boundaries

Resisting Quick Closeness

The Emotional Absorber

The Accommodator-Fighter

The Advocate

When Your Feet Decide Before Your Heart Does

The Runner

The Vanishing Act

The Volcano

When Having Full Attention Is The Only Way to Be Loved

Acting Out for Love

Always Doing The Math

Braced for Independence

When love feels real only when it hurts

Come Here, Go Away

Guarding Against Heartbreak

Keeping One Foot Out the Door

Loving and Hating Intensely

When defending your abuser feels like love

Loyal to Your Abusers

When Unpredictability Feels Like Home

No Playbook for Dating

When chasing unavailable love feels like home

Same Dance, Different Partners

Whiplashed in Relationships

Wired for Crisis

Blind Spots in Plain Sight

When making your own choices feels unsafe

Driving without a GPS

Going to the Opposite Extreme

Guided by Voices from the Past

Hypnotized to Believe You're Damaged Goods

Living in Ancestral Shadows

Reading Between the Lines

When putting others first feels like the only way to be loved

The Accommodator

The Also Ran

When taking care of your partner feels like being loved

The Caregiver

The Empath

The Fighter

The Fire Extinguisher

The Hero

The High Achiever

The Invisible Child

When Relationship Becomes Your Problem to Solve

The Lightning Rod

The Love Earner

When You're a Master at Meeting Others' Needs

The Mirror

When going along for the ride is the only option

The Passenger

The Peacemaker

When Opening Up Feels Dangerous

The Performer

When being seen feels like being exposed

The Politician

The Rescuer

When feeling nothing feels safer than feeling too much

The Stoic

The Triangles Expert

Hair Trigger Alert

Living in Fight-or-Flight

When finding acceptance means gambling with safety

Safe to Tell, Unsafe to Live With

When constant scanning for danger feels like calm

The Radar Always On

Wired for Survival

Always Waiting for the Other Shoe to Drop

When belonging was made impossible

The Outsider

When silence feels safer than truth

The Secrets Keeper

When Good Things Feel Like a Trap

The Skeptic

Wounded by Betrayal

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