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๐Ÿคท13-Question Inept Parent Quiz

Check what feels familiar:

As a child, you never knew which version of your parent you'd getโ€”their moods, rules, and availability changed without warning or explanation.

As a child, you never knew what mood your parent would be inโ€”loving one moment, distant or angry the next.

Growing up, your parents' love depended on their moodโ€”forcing you to constantly earn even basic attention that should have been freely given.

Love came with strings attached from the people who were supposed to care for you unconditionally.

In your family, chaos felt more normal than unknown peace.

Friendships got either too close or stayed too distant.

Growing up, dating and love meant extremesโ€”obsessing over some people, rejecting others.

As a child, you stayed loyal to people who hurt youโ€”because they were your family.

You kept hoping your family would change, but they never did.

Your parents were physically present but emotionally unavailable - you had to work extra hard to get your needs met.

Your needs were only addressed when they became a problem for the adults.

Asking for things directly was often met with 'not now' or 'later' that never came.

Your parents would often say 'no' out of habit or discipline - the real answer came much later because you made it a point to stand up for yourself.

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