No safe adult to turn to for emotional support

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    ⏰&nbsp; What it means to have grown up with parents working long hours/multiple jobs
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    <strong>Did you grow up with parents working long hours or multiple jobs, feeling emotionally homeless even in your own house? Did you learn to comfort yourself because there was no lap to crawl into, no voice saying "I've got you" when you needed it most, and that your parents' exhaustion always came before your need for connection?</strong>
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        Does this sound familiar?
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        💎 You became fluent in reading others' moods while remaining illiterate in your own needs.<br><br>
        💎 It feels safer to be self-reliant than to need others—disappointment hurts less when you don't expect support.<br><br>
        💎 Around others, you minimize your emotions, having learned early that your feelings will either be ignored or create uncomfortable situations.
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        You may have experienced your feelings and needs being ignored or dismissed so often that you learned they didn't matter. While your parents worked tirelessly to provide financially, there was no one there to hold your emotional world—no one to notice when you were hurt, scared, or struggling.
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        This emotional abandonment may have taught you that your feelings were unwelcome guests in your own home. Your first instinct became to hide your hurts with the painful reflex of ”Don't bother asking—they'll just make it your fault.” You learned that love means swallowing your pain to tend to theirs, and that the only way to get attention is to create enough drama to outcompete what's already demanding their focus.
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        💔&nbsp; The Core Wound
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        "You learned that your emotional needs are inconvenient burdens that drive people away, that asking for support is selfish, and that the only way to earn love is to be completely self-sufficient while caring for everyone else's needs before your own."
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Tools & Learning

⏰10 Ways Parent Working Long Hours/Multiple Jobs Trauma Affects Your Relationships

Acting Out for Love

Braced for Independence

Come Here, Go Away

Going to the Opposite Extreme

Loving and Hating Intensely

Same Dance, Different Partners

Sex as a Movie

The Accommodator

The Rescuer

The Stoic