No safe adult to turn to for emotional support

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        😶‍🌫️&nbsp; What it means to have grown up with emotionally unavailable parents
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<strong>Did your parents shut down, dismiss, or ignore your emotions when you tried to share them? Did you learn that feelings were something to handle alone rather than something parents helped you process?</strong>
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        Does this sound familiar?
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        💎 Growing up, you were emotionally homeless—no lap to crawl into, no voice that said "I've got you."<br><br>
        💎 As a child, you became fluent in reading others' moods while remaining illiterate in your own needs.<br><br>
        💎 It feels safer to be self-reliant than to need others—disappointment hurts less when you don't expect support.
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        You may have learned early that your inner world didn't matter to the adults who were supposed to care most about it. When you were hurt, scared, or angry, you were often met with silence, dismissal, or the clear message that your emotions were too much, too dramatic, or simply wrong. This wasn't neglect in the traditional sense—you may have had your physical needs met—but your emotional self was left to figure things out alone. You became fluent in reading everyone else's moods while remaining disconnected from your own.
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        You may have developed incredible self-reliance and the ability to handle crises without falling apart, but this came at the cost of learning to trust your own emotional experiences. Now, when someone asks "How are you feeling?" there might be static where your feelings should be. You've become so skilled at managing without emotional support that you've forgotten how to recognize when you need it, leaving you feeling like a stranger in your own inner world.
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        💔&nbsp; The Core Wound
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        "You learned that your feelings were unwelcome guests in your own home, that emotional self-sufficiency was survival, and that asking for comfort would only lead to disappointment or criticism."
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Tools & Learning

😶‍🌫️10 Ways Parental Emotional Unavailability Trauma Affects Your Relationships

Acting Out for Love

Braced for Independence

Come Here, Go Away

Going to the Opposite Extreme

Loving and Hating Intensely

Same Dance, Different Partners

Sex as a Movie

The Accommodator

The Rescuer

The Stoic