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    ⚔️&nbsp; What it means to have grown up with domestic violence
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    <strong>Did you grow up with domestic violence, where the threat of it hung in the air like smoke and you never felt completely safe in the place that should have protected you? Did you learn to read tension like a survival skill, to make yourself small during the storms, and to wonder if love and family were supposed to hurt this much?</strong>
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        Does this sound familiar?
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        💎 Your body learned to stay alert for danger, making you uncomfortable or jumpy when someone gets too close physically<br><br>
        💎 You find yourself either avoiding conflict at all costs or reacting strongly when you feel threatened—both are ways you learned to stay safe<br><br>
        💎 You struggle with trusting your intuition about danger—sometimes overreacting to minor threats, while missing or dismissing real red flags in relationships
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        Your home became a battlefield where you learned to read micro-expressions, scan for warning signs, and calculate escape routes. While other kids felt secure in their own space, you developed a hypervigilant nervous system that never truly relaxed. Every raised voice, sudden movement, or slammed door triggered your internal alarm system, teaching you that safety is always temporary and danger is always possible.
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        This constant state of alert didn't just shape your childhood—it rewired your brain for a lifetime of expecting threat, creating a cruel paradox where you became both hypervigilant to danger and mysteriously blind to the warning signs when they mattered most. You learned that power comes through force or intimidation, and that love and violence can coexist in the same space.
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        💔&nbsp; The Core Wound
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        "You learned that home isn't a sanctuary but a battlefield, that the people who claim to love you can also hurt you, and that you must always be prepared to either fight or flee because safety is an illusion that can shatter at any moment."
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Tools & Learning

⚔️7 Ways Domestic Violence Trauma Affects Your Relationships

Blind Spots in Plain Sight

Going to the Opposite Extreme

Living in Fight-or-Flight

Same Dance, Different Partners

The Advocate

The Fighter

The Rescuer