Question 1

What childhood experiences lead to The Secrets Keeper?

Accepted Answer

People with The Secrets Keeper dating style often experienced: Authoritarian parent or family member, Being adopted, Chronic lying in the family, Controlling parent, Denied education due to religious objections, Disciplinarian parent, Exorcisms or spiritual "deliverance" rituals, Family history of incest, Family member born out of wedlock or from incestuous relationship, Family secrets, skeletons in the closet, Fear-based or authoritarian parenting style, Forced modesty standards with body-shaming, Forced religious practices against personal beliefs, Household culture of secrecy, "Don’t talk about it", Incest, Isolated from secular society by religious community, Molestation, Parent constantly in trouble with the law, Parent in jail, serving prison sentence, Parent involved in illegal or criminal activities, Parent with secrets about their sexual identity, Parental cut-off from their own background or cultural roots, Personal stigma due to confusing birth circumstances (non-marital, unclear or secretive parentage etc)., Problems with the law in the family, Religious shaming of normal development/sexuality, Religious trauma cult-like environment, Secrecy around family identity, adoption, paternity, etc., Sexual abuse, Sexual violence

Question 2

How does childhood trauma create The Secrets Keeper patterns?

Accepted Answer

The Secrets Keeper develops as an adaptive response to specific childhood experiences, helping individuals cope with difficult family dynamics.

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