Question 1

What childhood experiences lead to The Advocate?

Accepted Answer

People with The Advocate dating style often experienced: Abusive parent, Academic/School pressure, ADHD, Angry parent, Asperger syndrome, Autism spectrum disorder, Being a "golden child", Being adopted, Being an orphan, Birth defects, Bullying at home, Bullying at school, Chronic exposure to parental sexual behavior, Chronic illness or physical disability, Chronic manipulation, Critical parent, Cruel parent, Cultural/language barriers in the family, Cyberbullying / public humiliation by peers, Death of a parent or sibling, Denied education due to religious objections, Depressed parent, Difficult or traumatic birth, Discrimination, Discrimination based on ethnicity, Discrimination based on immigrant status, Discrimination based on religion, Discrimination based on sexual orientation, Discrimination based on socio-economic status, Discrimination in new country, Domestic violence, Doxxing or personal information leaks, Dysfunctional family, Emotional abuse, Emotionally unstable parent, Enmeshed parent, Exorcisms or spiritual "deliverance" rituals, Exposure to age-inappropriate sexual content, Exposure to parental infidelity, Exposure to parental sexual behavior, Family history of murder, Family history of stigma due to race, caste, class, or disability, Family history of suicide, Family separation during migration, Family social isolation, Fights about infidelity, Fights about money, Forced labor in institutional setting, Forced modesty standards with body-shaming, Forced religious practices against personal beliefs, Frequent fights, Gaslighting, Grooming, High-conflict parent, Hypersexualized home environment, Incest, Inconsistent parenting, Infidelity by one or both parents, Invalidating parent, Involvement with child protective services or foster care system, Isolated from secular society by religious community, Lack of boundaries, Living in refugee camps or temporary shelters, Loss of homeland/cultural identity, Manipulative parent, Medical experimentation without consent, Medical trauma, Missing parent, Molestation, Nagging parent, Narcissistic abuse, Narcissistic parent, Narcissistic sibling, Neurodivergent conditions, Non-consensual sharing of private images, Online grooming or sexual exploitation, Paranoid parent, Parent with anorexia and eating disorders, Parent with bipolar disorder, Parent with borderline personality disorder (bpd), Parent with chronic anxiety, Parent with chronic mental illness, Parent with extreme paranoia, delusions, or conspiracy beliefs, Parent with frequent/multiple romantic partners in the home, Parent with mental health issues, Parent with obsessive-compulsive disorder (ocd), Parent with post-partum depression, Parent with schizophrenia, Parent with self-harm or suicidal behaviors, Parent with undiagnosed or untreated personality disorder, Parental abandonment, Parental alienation, Parental favoritism toward other siblings, Parental immigration stress (undocumented status, fear of deportation), Parental sex work, Parental suicide, Physical abuse, Physical abuse in orphanage/group home/religious school, Physical violence, Pressure to be nice, Pressure to be perfect, Pressure to behave, Pressure to do things correctly / the right way, Pressure to do things quickly, Pressure to follow the rules exactly, Pressure to perform at school, sports, arts, Pressure to succeed, Prolonged hospitalization, Psychotic parent, Punishing parent, Racism, Recent family loss, Rejecting parents or family, Rejection by peers, Religious conversion efforts in institutions, Religious shaming of normal development/sexuality, Restriction of basic hygiene/sanitation, Scapegoating, Scolding, verbal abuse, put-downs in the family, Self-centered parent, Sexism, Sexual abuse, Sexual tensions/inappropriate behavior between relatives, Sexual violence, Shame-based parenting, Sibling favoritism, Sibling receiving preferential treatment, Sibling rivalry, Sibling with severe mental health disorders, Siblings with health or behavioral issues, Single-parent family, Single-parent household, Social stigma, Statelessness or undocumented status, Sudden displacement/immigration due to war/persecution, Systematic humiliation/degradation in institution, Systemic discrimination of the family based on ethnicity, background, religion, Toxic family, Toxic parent, Toxic parenting, Unpredictable parent, Unreliable parent, Unresolved grief, Unsafe parent, Violent parent, Witnessing violence during migration journey

Question 2

How does childhood trauma create The Advocate patterns?

Accepted Answer

The Advocate develops as an adaptive response to specific childhood experiences, helping individuals cope with difficult family dynamics.

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