🥇 The High Achiever
Related Childhood Experiences
People with this dating style often experienced these childhood situations:
Academic/School pressureFamily history of extreme poverty, hunger, cold, displacement, homelessnessHungerPovertyPressure to be nicePressure to be perfectPressure to behavePressure to do things correctly / the right wayPressure to do things quicklyPressure to follow the rules exactlyPressure to perform at school, sports, artsPressure to succeedSevere poverty
Related Dating Styles
Other patterns that often appear alongside The High Achiever:
👍The Accommodator
When putting others first feels like the only way to be loved
emotional neglect traumalove as transaction wiringpeople-pleasing
🥈The Also Ran
👐The Caregiver
When taking care of your partner feels like being loved
❤️🩹The Empath
🤛The Fighter
🧯The Fire Extinguisher
💪The Hero
😶🌫️The Invisible Child
⚡The Lightning Rod
When Relationship Becomes Your Problem to Solve
scapegoat traumafault wiringfixer love
🏆The Love Earner
🪞The Mirror
When You're a Master at Meeting Others' Needs
family identity traumaapproval addictionlove through usefulness
🚗The Passenger
When going along for the ride is the only option
parental control traumalearned helplessnessdependency wiring
🕊️The Peacemaker
🎭The Performer
When Opening Up Feels Dangerous
perfection traumaperformance wiringauthenticity fear
📺The Politician
When being seen feels like being exposed
perfection-shame traumafalse self addictionapproval chasing
🩹The Rescuer
🪨The Stoic
When feeling nothing feels safer than feeling too much
feelings punishment traumanumbness wiringsilent suffering
▵The Triangles Expert