Question 1

What childhood experiences lead to Come Here, Go Away?

Accepted Answer

People with Come Here, Go Away dating style often experienced: Abusive parent, Alcohol abuse in the family, Alcohol and or drug addicted parent, Angry parent, Being adopted, Being an orphan, Child custody battles, Childhood trauma, PTSD, C-PTSD, Chronic abuse, Chronic manipulation, Critical parent, Depressed parent, Discrimination in new country, Divorced parents, Drug abuse in the family, Dysfunctional family, Emotional abuse, Emotional neglect, Emotionally distant or unavailable parent, Emotionally unstable parent, Enmeshed parent, Family separation during migration, Fights about infidelity, Fights about money, Frequent fights, Frequent relocation, moving, Gaslighting, High-conflict parent, Immature parent, Inconsistent parenting, Indifferent parent, Inept parent, Invalidating parent, Lack of boundaries, Lack of love, Living in refugee camps or temporary shelters, Loss of homeland/cultural identity, Manipulative parent, Missing parent, Mother’s death in childbirth, Nagging parent, Narcissistic abuse, Narcissistic parent, No safe adult to turn to for emotional support, One parent frequently absent, Paranoid parent, Parent constantly in trouble with the law, Parent in jail, serving prison sentence, Parent involved in illegal or criminal activities, Parent with anorexia and eating disorders, Parent with bipolar disorder, Parent with borderline personality disorder (bpd), Parent with chronic anxiety, Parent with chronic mental illness, Parent with extreme paranoia, delusions, or conspiracy beliefs, Parent with mental health issues, Parent with obsessive-compulsive disorder (ocd), Parent with post-partum depression, Parent with schizophrenia, Parent with self-harm or suicidal behaviors, Parent with undiagnosed or untreated personality disorder, Parent working long hours/multiple jobs, Parental abandonment, Parental alienation, Parental emotional unavailability, Parents separating or divorcing, Problems with the law in the family, Psychotic parent, Punishing parent, Rejecting parents or family, Scapegoating, Scolding, verbal abuse, put-downs in the family, Self-centered parent, Shame-based parenting, Single-parent family, Single-parent household, Statelessness or undocumented status, Sudden displacement/immigration due to war/persecution, Toxic family, Toxic parent, Toxic parenting, Unavailable parent, Unloving parent, Unpredictable parent, Unreliable parent, Withholding parent, Witnessing violence during migration journey

Question 2

How does childhood trauma create Come Here, Go Away patterns?

Accepted Answer

Come Here, Go Away develops as an adaptive response to specific childhood experiences, helping individuals cope with difficult family dynamics.

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