🪨 The Stoic: When feeling nothing feels safer than feeling too much
Related Childhood Experiences
People with this dating style often experienced these childhood situations:
Dysfunctional familyEmotional neglectEmotionally distant or unavailable parentIndifferent parentLack of loveLiving in unsafe or high-crime neighborhoodsNo safe adult to turn to for emotional supportOne parent frequently absentParent working long hours/multiple jobsParental emotional unavailabilityToxic familyUnavailable parentUnloving parentWithholding parent
Related Dating Styles
Other patterns that often appear alongside The Stoic:
👍The Accommodator
When putting others first feels like the only way to be loved
emotional neglect traumalove as transaction wiringpeople-pleasing
🥈The Also Ran
👐The Caregiver
When taking care of your partner feels like being loved
❤️🩹The Empath
🤛The Fighter
🧯The Fire Extinguisher
💪The Hero
🥇The High Achiever
😶🌫️The Invisible Child
⚡The Lightning Rod
When Relationship Becomes Your Problem to Solve
scapegoat traumafault wiringfixer love
🏆The Love Earner
🪞The Mirror
When You're a Master at Meeting Others' Needs
family identity traumaapproval addictionlove through usefulness
🚗The Passenger
When going along for the ride is the only option
parental control traumalearned helplessnessdependency wiring
🕊️The Peacemaker
🎭The Performer
When Opening Up Feels Dangerous
perfection traumaperformance wiringauthenticity fear
📺The Politician
When being seen feels like being exposed
perfection-shame traumafalse self addictionapproval chasing
🩹The Rescuer
▵The Triangles Expert